Jun
15

“You should ….”

Some time ago I was in a conversation with my husband. I had seen an email he had written and was objecting. “Why aren’t you being honest?” “You should be honest”. On and on I prodded. I surprised myself how irritated I felt about this response he was writing to another mutual friend. It was […]

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Apr
03

Fall back into your heart…

Come with me here… Do you feel guilty, stuck, or inadequate when you try to express yourself with your partner? Do you fear saying how you feel and what you want because you don’t want to appear needy? Do you believe that having a good relationship is hard work, especially for you? Do you think […]

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Mar
20

For intimacy, sex and relationship…

Have you noticed a wide spread obsession with the electrifying experience of falling in-love and at the same time a lack of knowing how to progress from there to delicious hot-smouldering-coals love? i.e. a lack of understanding about what enables love to evolve from the initial limerence of being in-love? Apathy and idealism often collide. […]

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Feb
06

How do I get someone to change?

IF you are not in touch with the feelings and needs of the one that you wish would change, then I would URGE you to focus there. This applies to personal and professional relationships. Adults and children. I’m not just speaking of an intellectual understanding though … Connection at this deeper level to underlying feelings […]

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Feb
01

Annoyed, instead of feeling loving toward your person?

“I’m more often annoyed rather than [loving] with my Love, help please” Annoyance is essentially anger. It’s on the anger spectrum, kind of in the middle, with irritability at one end and rage at the other. I love that you are acknowledging your annoyance. Personal responsibility precedes growth. To be annoyed with someone you have […]

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Feb
01

What to Focus on Next

“How can I know what to focus on next in my personal development?” The place I go with this question is to speak to the part of you, who wants to improve or develop. *What do you hope to gain? *What is it you truly want out of undertaking personal improvement? What is motivating you […]

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Jan
04

Have a goal or a wish?

It’s that time of year hey? There are lots of messages out there about setting goals and New Years resolutions. Truth is we have intentions that we operate by regardless of the date. Right? Mostly these are unconscious, keeping us in a trance. Yes, intentions in the form of our thoughts come largely uninvited and […]

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Nov
26

At Your Upper Limit?

Have you ever had an intensely beautiful time, followed by a really challenging time – either in relationship with someone else, or in relationship to work, money, yourself, your health? I have. And wondered wtf (technical term!) for a mixture of confusion, upset, disappointment and/ or maybe annoyance… basically you found yourself probably needing empathy […]

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Nov
13

Same and different in relationships: what counts?

SO much conflict can occur when we want our partner to be like us. To think like us, to express themselves or behave in ways that fit inside our envelope of comfort. Yet it’s usually the differences which attract us at the outset. That they are more outgoing than us. Or they are quieter and […]

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Nov
01

Honesty and intimacy ..

One in ten interactions in a marriage is not honest. White lies or deliberately omitting information and not admitting mistakes – is being less than honest. The criterion for a person being honest with you, is that they practice “no deceptions, lead no life apart from you, and do not lie to you.” (The Science […]

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