Aug
13

Protection, Reaction, Connection

If we truly ‘get’ how these 3 (protection, reaction and connection) are intimately intertwined – life will change 180 degrees! Let me explain… Have you ever been in a gridlock with someone? Where every conversation seems to get stuck in tension, misunderstanding or an argument? What the heck?! Something happens, and we just react – or […]

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Jul
07

Presence ~ Being Present

What I’m writing about today is a fundamental act of love. It’s major key to experiencing a secure bond in a relationship. I often hear people saying “… is not present to me”. That’s a word not always understood. “I want him/ her to be PRESENT”. What does that mean? Present. Presence. Same same. The […]

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Jun
23

Do you ever deserve?

Today I heard a man say “I deserve ..”.  He wasn’t angry or upset. On slowing down he realised that actually beneath his concept of “I deserve”, what was important to him was celebration. He had just completed a 6 month intense emotional relationship journey and wanted to celebrate his successful navigation of this and […]

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Jan
26

Honesty – natural aphrodisiac

Honesty from our hearts fuels intimacy. I'd go so far as to say it is a natural aphrodisiac! So when I was hanging out… Posted by Everyday Love on Sunday, 3 April 2016

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Dec
19

Christmas and expectations

Christmas promises many goodies and comes loaded with expectations 🙂 We want so much the promise of fun, love, connection and relaxation. And lets take a few minutes to clear our expectations compassionately. We all sense ‘energy’, we sense when there are expectations.  They lead us into healing feelings when fully acknowledged and bring tension in the air or resentment if not […]

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Aug
03

Grief, loss and letting go …

The single greatest source of suffering in relationship is that we have expectations.  We get stuck when we believe that our expectations are rightful and things don’t happen accordingly. This can leave us afraid.  Afraid to experience the grief, loss and letting go of our expectations not being fulfilled.  Why are we afraid?  Because we […]

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Mar
10

Clean Conversations .. everyone needs ’em!

Here is the first of a few 2 minute video tips inspired by folks I see personally and professionally about common issues in relationship. Are you trying to say something really important and concerned about how to avoid an argument? For instance that you wish for more time with your partner? Find out below what a […]

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Dec
16

Receiving Christmas

Our social conditioning is usually about being a ‘doer’ and giving to others. DOING – racing around so that everything gets done and everyone is consumerised and  happy, can unravel and challenge the most centered of us.  It’s our centeredness that supports our relating.  So if each of us has one gift to give at […]

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Nov
09

Create new beginnings

I am working with a couple at present who have really taken to transforming the way they listen like ducks to water. Like many of the couples whom I work with they’ve got some significant topics to grok their way through – including less intimacy and sex than one or both would like, lack of […]

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Nov
04

Teach others how to treat you

I met a father recently who was fed up with how his family were relating to each other.  He wanted more kindness and connection and less anger.  He had had enough. At the time he came to see me his state of frustration was bubbling over in anger too and he knew giving back what […]

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