Dec
19

Christmas and expectations

Christmas promises many goodies and comes loaded with expectations ūüôā We want so much the promise of¬†fun, love, connection and relaxation.¬†And¬†lets take a few minutes to clear our¬†expectations¬†compassionately.¬†We all sense ‘energy’, we sense¬†when there are expectations. ¬†They lead us into healing feelings when fully acknowledged and bring tension in the air or resentment if not […]

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Aug
03

Grief, loss and letting go …

The single greatest source of suffering in relationship is that we have expectations.¬† We get stuck when we believe that our expectations are rightful and things don‚Äôt happen accordingly. This can leave us afraid.¬† Afraid to experience the grief, loss and letting go of our expectations not being fulfilled.¬† Why are we afraid?¬† Because we […]

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Mar
10

Clean Conversations .. everyone needs ’em!

Here is the first of a few 2 minute video tips inspired by folks I see personally and professionally about common issues in relationship. Are you trying to say something really important and concerned about how to avoid an argument? For instance that¬†you wish for more time with your partner? Find out below what a […]

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Dec
16

Receiving Christmas

Our social conditioning is usually about being a ‘doer’ and giving to others. DOING – racing around so that everything gets done and everyone is consumerised and¬† happy, can unravel and challenge the most centered of us.¬† It’s our centeredness that supports our relating.¬† So if each of us has one gift to give at […]

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Nov
09

Create new beginnings

I am working with a couple at present who have really taken to transforming the way they listen like ducks to water. Like many of the couples whom I work with they‚Äôve got some significant topics to grok their way through ‚Äď including less intimacy and sex than one or both would like, lack of […]

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Nov
04

Teach others how to treat you

I met a father recently who was fed up with how his family were relating to each other.¬† He wanted more kindness and connection and less anger.¬† He had had enough. At the time he came to see me his state of frustration was bubbling over in anger too and he knew giving back what […]

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Oct
22

Why some people are compassionate and others are not

Through various studies it is now widely thought that humans are wired to want to contribute and care for others.¬† Daniel Goleman, psychologist and acclaimed author of Emotional Intelligence and numerous other books shares in the video below his answer to the above question. Listen to Daniel (he’s entertaining as well as informative) AND I […]

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Sep
25

Got a north star?

Most mornings after I drop my daughter to her bus stop, I walk to a beach that has no road access.¬† Usually I am the only one there.¬† Truly!¬† 5 minutes from my home in a built up area of Sydney, and yet there I am, the whole beach to myself, the ocean sparkling, sand […]

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Sep
07

Good conversations

My good friend Adriana Koulias, author and speaker wrote this note the other day. For me it captures the essence of connecting and creating friendship and love that is stronger and larger than blood relatedness.¬† And names a fundamental quality – goodwill. “To be awake and to try not to put another to sleep are […]

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Jun
06

What we do when we hurt…

I’ll bet you have hurt AND been in pain, upset.¬† Being a human being that’s highly likely. When we are hurt we need empathy – basic understanding free of conditions.¬† We have other needs, maybe to be heard, respect etc. and to grow and heal.¬† I believe those last two are hidden needs we are […]

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