Real Love Conversations Toolkit

Are you worried about the impact you are having on each other? Do you find it hard to speak up and claim your space? Or to get heard?

Perhaps it is time to refresh or develop your ability to communicate in intimate relationships? How you communicate effects how much love and connection, intimacy, honesty and trust you get to experience.

Connection Essentials is a course that shows you how to connect deeply with yourself and then from this clarity, warmth and inner awareness, to relate with your partner and family..

15+ years ago I discovered a system of communicating from the heart (NVC) which has been taught all around the world. Hundreds of thousands of people have learned this and transformed their lives through changing their conversations.

The course is enriching, self-paced ideally over 4 weeks and well supported. Register today for Connection Essentials and get started!


What you will learn

  • to center and calm yourself when you are reactive
  • how to avoid and handle resentment
  • to untangle blame and criticism and create connection
  • what to do with emotions in order to be most likely to connect
  • how you can express yourself in ways that draw close connection
  • how to listen to each other, so that everyday talk brings you closer

This course is powerful as a couple, with a friend or as an individual.

What people say about this course


Is this for me?

  • You enjoy your relationship and want more depth and intimacy?  Then yes this is absolutely ideal for you.  You’ll gain the insights, practical application support and understanding of what you can do daily to support intimacy.
  • Wondering if you really need private support but one of you doesn’t want to go down that path? You guys are who I had in mind when I created these Online Courses! I recommend you definitely join the course. Taking a step forward toward better connection is paramount.
  • Already in therapy or coaching? Course Membership will add significant support to any private work you undertake. If you’ve completed then it will help you consolidate your positive cycle of connection. **It’s just not intended to replace Private Support or therapy.
  • Are you are currently single and/or want to improve how you interact with a family member?  You will get a great deal of knowledge and insight about how you can strengthen your relationships and also about how to truly shape your life around what matters to you, through being clear and compassionate with yourself.  Ready to engage with others at the level of their heart too.

Module Topics

Module 1 – Connecting to yourself

Calming and collecting yourself if triggered
Taking 100% accountability for emotions and needs
Becoming clear about your what is most important at point anytime
Giving yourself empathy
Making sense your inner world for connection

Module 2 – Listening Deeply

Learning to listen skilfully to open space and connection
Listening during difficult conversations
Empathic listening – male and female ways
Knowing what to listen for, not just how

Module 3 – Speaking Up

Saying what you really want to say
Expressing yourself in ways that tend to draw connection
Understanding the core information to convey
How to build bridges for connection
Making requests.
Asking for what you want so that connection is strengthened

Module 4 – Putting it all together

Knowing the steps in conversing to create connection
Recognising when to speak, when to listen and when to connect with yourself
Creating connection through conversation

Time involved

  • Approximately 45 minutes learning time per module
  • I suggest 1 module/week for 4 weeks
  • Practice as you go through your daily life
  • 45 minutes x 4, Fortnightly for your live interactive Group Coaching Calls
  • Revisit your Connection Essentials portal anytime