GROWTH happens in the edges
Don’t miss your gold nuggets
It’s SO tempting to want to run, avoid, defend, fume, etc if things feel crappy in your relationship. Don’t.
That is NOT the code for stay. I’m not meaning, stay in relationship, no matter what. That is not always what’s true. How are you going to know what is true?
Here’s my strong invitation 🙂
I’m inviting you to turn in toward yourself, toward your partner when things feel crappy.
If you have been reading me or know me, you will know I am not a fan of Positive Pollyanna style approaches. I mean I would be if they worked. I’ve not seen it work in the long run. Things tend to just get stale.
And I’m a long-run kinda gal. I want REAL solutions and love.
What is connected grows. Love that grows lasts. Generally.
So turn toward what feels sour, bitter, or crunchy. Because really and truly there is SOMETHING worth uncovering there. Something you DEFINITELY want to have. Why?
Because just like in permaculture gardening GROWTH happens in the edges, the areas of difference. Where two zones/ substances/ people really meet each other.
In that zone is a seed, an opening, something NEW that emerges.
Personal insight, growth. Growth individually supports relationship to move forward in whatever is true rather than reactive.
Be fresh and courageous, be skillful and loving in these adventures into the growth zone 🙂
Be true. You can trust connection with yourself and the other, to show you what’s next…