PRIVATE SUPPORT

Existing Clients

Is Private support for you?

  • Yes, if you are desperate and in distress, easily triggering each other
  • Yes, if you have unresolved past or current trauma
  • Yes, if you are single and looking to heal past relationship injuries
  • No, if you think the answer lies solely in your partner changing


What will you receive?

  • emotionally focused couple therapy proven methodology (EFCT)
  • clear steps and 3 stages (this is not counselling)
  • deep transformation of blocks to intimacy
  • impartial support
  • privacy and unconditional warmth and regard to evolve as a person/ couple
  • advanced NVC coaching for intimate relationships


Time 

Your Initial Consultation is 75 minutes in length as are follow-on appointments.

How many appointments will you need? That depends on past distress, current distress, each person’s personality and frequency of appointments. Generally between 12 – 20 appointments are required.**

** If you also participate in the Online Connection Essentials Course this shortens the number of sessions required dramatically.  I reckon by about 40 – 50%. In the course online you are learning and in your private sessions we are processing stuff, so you are working both ends of the candle separately. 🙂

Read the testimonials to see how effective this combination is.

 

Where do we meet for Private Sessions?

We either meet face to face, at Tranquillo Place, Mona Vale, NSW 2103. Or else I may be able to work with you online.


First step

Let’s have a chat and see if we click. That is important isn’t it?  If after chatting you or I don’t think I have what you most need, that’s ok. We can be honest and often I will be able to refer you elsewhere. Please click below to arrange a time to talk.

 

 

Encouragement

If you think you need help, you probably do. Most people postpone getting help way too long. Research shows as long as 6 years after their first inkling. I understand it can be a confronting thought to open up about your relationship.

In reality this is a very gentle act of love for yourselves and your relationship. Rather than me giving you answers I will help you bring forward the answers you have within you, but have not been able to access or express.

Getting private support is a non-judgmental, supportive step.

Here is what an initially reluctant, now happy Garry said to me “I wish we had found you 34 years ago!” at the time Garry was 68 years of age, married for 36 years.

 

 

Ready to book now?

Online Learning or In-Person Support?

Both is best! Our Online Courses are an incredibly powerful additional support for you if you are engaging in In-Person Support.

Specifically, completing the Connection Essentials online course, will often HALVE the number of private sessions required. That’s a big saving in time and money for you!

The courses enhance your capacity to experience and understand emotions and engage in your sessions.

They also contain the pieces of the Positive Cycle of Connection which you are moving toward. And make these conscious 🙂

FAQ

It’s not enough for an intimate relationship that is experiencing difficulties, to only learn new communication methods. Whilst the words you use and the way you listen are profoundly important, in an intimate relationship there are many subtle cues that get triggered. The emotion behind the words and actions holds the secret solution. A fully trained Emotionally Focused Therapist will help you dissolve carefully your armour and distance that gets in the way of your connecting.

You have all the pieces for information and healing.  Over 30 years of research guides us in helping you through 3 important phases to re-discovering your loving, peaceful, passionate connection as a couple. So what is offered through Everyday Love is a method with a definitive path.  As opposed to advice, counsel or mediating your differences.

Our approach is based on Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy which has a success rate of  70%.

Traditionally it was thought that individual counselling was the way to go.  ”If I sort out my issues and you sort out yours – everything between us will be fine”.

There are pieces of the puzzle which none of us can see as clearly as our partner. So working with both of you together is the ideal.  Individual work may be recommended in parallel on occasion*.

You will make faster and more complete progress if you can do this together.

* The few situations where an individual session is useful can be clarified over the phone or in your Initial Consultation.

This is not necessarily the end of trust and love.  Come in for an Initial Consultation to learn more about how your Couples Coaching will address this.  It essential that the additional intimate relationship be discontinued before really diving into the deeper work of healing the bond in your relationship.  It is my experience that trust and connection can be restored.

Yes absolutely.  Every relationship is different and your coaching is impartial and supportive of love and the relationship.

First book your Initial Consultation (90 minutes) then we all get to see if there is a match.  By the end of this session we will have a pathway sketched out and usually an insight surfaces which is immediately helpful.

I see couples or individuals for 12 – 20 sessions (75 minute sessions usually 1 – 2 weeks apart.) How frequently depends on your goals, the emotional situation internally and in the relationship, availability and your resources.  I don’t wish for anyone to ‘miss out’ so I aim to make sure anyone who wants to see me manages to get the support they need.  I also refer folks on to others if I believe that another person would be a better match. I won’t leave you hanging.